TRAUMA HEALING

Trauma Healing Therapy

“We’ll find that as we begin to commit ourselves to this practice, as we begin to have a sense of celebrating the aspects of ourselves that we found so impossible before, something will shift in us.”
 Pema Chodron

Trauma Healing Therapy

In my trauma work with individuals and couples, I work with people to help them to get a handle on their past so that they understand how it affects their current relationships and where they are stuck in dysfunctional patterns. The origin of these problems can be traced back to some type of trauma in their past. While our parents did the best they could, in most cases it was not perfect parenting. I don’t think that exists. Parents bring the legacies of their own childhoods with them, and this affects how they parent. While in some cases the trauma could have been some sort of physical or sexual abuse, it could have also been relational abuse. Trauma of this type can be enmeshment (a parent who was too close), physical or emotional neglect, or emotional abuse.  

My work in trauma stems from the teachings of Pia Mellody, RN who is one of the founders of The Meadows in Wickenberg, AZ. I have had extensive training with Pia in treating childhood trauma using her Post Induction Therapy (PIT) model. In this model, she writes that the origins of adult dysfunction lie in childhood trauma, which causes one to be immature (not fully developed) in one or all of five core areas:
  • Loving the Self 
  • Protecting the Self 
  • Creating and knowing the Self 
  • Taking care of the Self, and 
  • Moderating and containing the Self  
When this is not treated, these areas of immaturity can also cause secondary symptoms, such as anger issues, relationship problems, depression, anxiety and addiction. Getting better and more functional involves coming to terms with your past and being more aware so that you know how to intervene on your own behalf when you are acting in dysfunctional ways.

Sometimes it is necessary to do more in depth work on childhood trauma in order to heal and make changes. I recommend for these clients to take an intensive workshop, which is experiential and offered a few times a year. For more information on this, please see The Reconnection and Healing Workshop information on this site.
Something will shift permanently in us. Our ancient habitual patterns will begin to soften, and
we’ll begin to see the faces and hear the words of people who are talking to us.
If we begin to get in touch with whatever we feel with some kind of kindness,
our protective shells will melt, and we’ll find that more areas of our lives are workable.
As we learn to have compassion for ourselves, the circle of compassion for others…becomes wider.” 
 Pema Chodron
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